Combating Emotional Vampires | By Judith Orloff The following is an excerpt from the "Combating Emotional Vampires" on-line course. If you would like to enroll in the course, click here. Relationships are always an energy exchange. To stay feeling our best, we must ask ourselves: Who gives us energy? Who saps it? It's important to be surrounded by supportive, heart-centered people who make us feel safe and secure. It's equally important to pinpoint the emotional vampires, who, whether they intend to or not, leech our energy. To protect your sensitivity, it's imperative to name and combat these emotional vampires. They're everywhere: coworkers, neighbors, family, and friends. In Energy Psychiatry I've treated a revolving door of patients who've been hard-hit by drainers--truly a mental health epidemic that conventional medicine doesn't see. I'm horrified by how many of these "emotionally walking wounded" (ordinarily perceptive, intelligent individuals) have become resigned to chronic anxiety or depression. Why the blind spot? Most of us haven't been educated about draining people or how to emancipate ourselves from their clutches, requisite social skills for everyone desiring freedom. Emotional draining is a touchy subject. We don't know how to tactfully address our needs without alienating others. The result: We get tongue-tied, or destructively passive. We ignore the SOS from our gut that screams, "Beware!" Or, quaking in our boots, we're so afraid of the faux pas of appearing "impolite" that we become martyrs in lieu of being respectfully assertive. We don't speak out because we don't want to be seen as "difficult" or uncaring. Vampires do more than drain our physical energy. The super-malignant ones can make you believe you're an unworthy, unlovable wretch who doesn't deserve better. The subtler species inflict damage that's more of a slow burn. Smaller digs here and there can make you feel bad about yourself such as, "Dear, I see you've put on a few pounds" or "It's not lady-like to interrupt." In a flash, they've zapped you by prodding areas of shaky self-worth. This is my credo for vampires: Their antics are unacceptable; you must develop a successful plan for coping with them. I deeply believe in the merciful message of The Lord's Prayer to "forgive people their trespasses," but I'm also a proponent of preventing the unconscious or mean-spirited from trespassing against us. Taking a stand against draining people is a form of self-care and canny communication that you must practice to give your freedom legs. For more information visit: > Combating Emotional Vampires | DailyOM Course Spotlight by Stephanie Mansour Have you tried diet after diet or trainer after trainer, and haven't gotten the weight loss results that you'd hoped for? Are you tired of feeling tired and discouraged, or to start a new weight loss program and then once you stop it, you stop seeing results? Are you looking for a new, holistic, and spiritual approach to losing weight fast and making it last? Then Welcome! You're in the right place. I've helped thousands of women lost weight fast and make it last, and then easily maintain their healthy and fit bodies and lives. My workout routines and mindset exercises have been featured on Dr. Oz, CNN, the Nordstrom catalog, and many other media outlets. My private weight loss clients credit me with saving them from a lifetime of dieting and negative self-talk, as well as picking them up and giving them their lives back. It's an honor for me to share with you my "Step It Up with Steph" four prong approach to holistic health and weightloss: spiritual, emotional, nutritional, and physical. Top 10 DailyOM Courses 1. HIIT Yoga Fusion 2. Fit and Fierce Over 40 3. 21 Days to Phenomenal Abdominals 4. 8 Week Whole Body Makeover! 5. A Year to Clear What is Holding You Back! 6. Be Free from Unhealthy Relationships 7. 14 Days of Strength and Stretching 8. Find True Love in 27 Days 9. Release Yourself from Family Karma 10. 21 Day Yoga Shred For Men
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