Coming Back to Center in a Relationship | by Madisyn Taylor Anyone in a long-term relationship knows that the dance of intimacy involves coming together and moving apart. Early in a relationship, intense periods of closeness are important in order to establish the ground of a new union. Just as a sapling needs a lot more attention than a full-grown tree, budding relationships demand time and attention if they are to fully take root. Once they become more established, the individuals in the union begin to turn their attention outward again, to the other parts of their lives that matter, such as work, family, and friendships. This is natural and healthy. Yet, if a long-term relationship is to last, turning towards one another recurrently, with the same curiosity, attention, and nurturance of earlier times, is essential. In a busy and demanding world full of obligations and opportunities, we sometimes lose track of our primary relationships, thinking they will tend to themselves. We may have the best intentions when we think about how nice it would be to surprise our partner with a gift or establish a weekly date night. Yet somehow, life gets in the way. We may think that our love is strong enough to survive without attention. Yet even mature trees need water and care if they are to thrive. One of the best ways to nourish a relationship is through communication. If you feel that a distance has grown between you and your partner, you may be able to bridge the gap by sharing how you feel. Do your best to avoid blame and regret. Focus instead on the positive, which is the fact that you want to grow closer together. Sometimes, just acknowledging that there is distance between you has the effect of bringing the relationship into balance. In other cases, more intense effort and attention may be required. You may want to set aside time to talk and come up with solutions together. Remember to have compassion for each other. You're in the same boat together and trying to maintain the right balance of space and togetherness to keep your relationship healthy and thriving. Express faith and confidence in each other, and enjoy the slow dance of intimacy that can resume between the two of you. | DailyOM Course Spotlight by Neil Sattin and Chloe Urban Do you feel stuck, frustrated, insecure, or alone in your relationship? Do you crave feeling unconditionally loved and fully understood by your partner? Do you want deeper intimacy, more passion, and a relationship that meets you--heart, mind, body, and spirit? There's a key to long-lasting, deepening connection that all amazing relationships share: safety. And when there are cracks in safety, all sorts of problems begin to creep in until they're undermining your relationship, and maybe even your sense of self. A lack of safety pushes us into a state of fight/flight/freeze--so that your entire system is more focused on survival than on the play, creativity, vulnerability, and courage required to take your relationship to new heights. We're talking about the kind of safety that creates a deep sense of trust and connection in your relationship. Where you feel so safe with your partner that you can be all of who you are--with a freedom to go deeper and to expand into what's possible. Where your relationship is a source of profound love, inspiration, and connection to the divine. By the end of this course, you will have completely transformed the way that you connect with yourself and with your partner, with a strong, secure foundation that fosters unconditional love, thriving intimacy, and profound presence in your relationship. Top 10 DailyOM Courses 1. Go Sleeveless in 14 Days 2. Change Your Life with Energy Medicine Yoga 3. Fit and Fierce Over 40 4. Be Free from Unhealthy Relationships 5. Meditation: How to Manifest Your True Intention 6. 21 Day Yoga Shred For Men 7. From Codependent to Independent 8. The Food Relationship Reset 9. 21 Day Booty Core 10. 21 Tapping Meditations for Emotional Eating and Beyond
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