I often find myself in audience settings—such as a theater, concert, class or worship service—with chatty neighbors whose whispered (or loud) conversations disturb the peace of everyone around them. Occasionally I have the option to move to another seat, but not always. I have tried writing notes or attempting a polite reminder, but these usually don’t work and only create tension—offenders may talk less but the chatting continues, and I am left fuming and racking my brain for a solution. I would love to address the chattering in a way that doesn’t offend. I think my reminders don’t produce the desired result precisely because people feel offended. I would sincerely appreciate your advice.

Signed,
Gag Order