You may not like what I’m about to say and end up lumping me in that group of psychology experts you’ve talked with, but please know my goal is to help, even if that means challenging you a bit.

Here’s what I think you should do: forget about changing your daughter and work on changing yourself. Her habits, however unhealthy they might be, are not your responsibility. They may have been when she was a child under your care and supervision, but given that she’s a 38-year-old adult who “doesn’t want to hear anything about the issue,” it’s time to let go and look inward.

Connie Podesta is the author of How to Be the Person Successful Companies Want to Keep, 10 Ways to Stand Out from the Crowd, and Life Would Be Easy If It Weren’t for Other People. Her mission for more than 25 years has been to help people understand people. Join her July 11 in the first of our Summer Webinar Series.

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