Why do you depend psychologically, inwardly? Is it because you are afraid to be alone? There is a difference between loneliness and aloneness. Loneliness is a factor of our daily life – we are active in our self-interest, concerned about ourselves, thinking about ourselves, pursing our own pleasures, our own ambitions. That activity is gradually isolating you, isolating you from others, from your family, from your friends, cutting you off, building a wall around yourself. Then your relationship with another is over that wall; it is not without a wall. Isolation, and the fear of isolation, makes one depend, whereas if there is no resistance, that means no image between you and another psychologically. Then there is no question of dependence at all. From a Public Talk, Rome, 29 October 1972 Read more |