Dear Reader,

Casual friendships may come and go, but most people have a group of friends and family they can turn to when they need support. The members of this inner circle may change over time, but the number usually remains fairly stable during the course of a lifetime.

To build and maintain a strong network of family and friends, invest in some key relationship strategies:

Make relationships a priority. A healthy, fulfilling long-term relationship is one of the best sources of support. Don’t take your partner or spouse for granted. Take time to be there for each other, and also make time to regularly do something with your friends.
Recognize the importance of give-and-take. Sometimes you’re the one giving support, and other times you’re on the receiving end. Letting family and friends know you love and appreciate them will help ensure that their support remains strong when times are rough for you.
Respect boundaries. Although you want to be there for friends and family, you don’t want to overwhelm them. Respect their ways of communicating. Find out how often they like to get together.
Don’t compete. This can turn potential rivals into potential friends.
Avoid relentless complaining. Nonstop complaining is tiresome and can be draining on others.
Embrace laughter. Try to find the humor in things.
Listen up. Make a point to remember what’s going on in others’ lives. Relate any interests or experiences you have in common.
Resolve to improve yourself. Cultivating your own honesty, generosity and humility will enhance your self-esteem and make you a more compassionate and appealing friend.
Beware of individuals or groups that are unhealthy, oppressive or rigid. They can be just as damaging as having no connections at all. For instance, if people in your social support system are continually stressed or ill, you may end up suffering along with them. If your friends place heavy demands on your time, or if you’re unable to meet their needs, you may find yourself become increasingly anxious or depressed. You may pay a psychological price if you feel obligated to conform to your friends’ beliefs or ideas.