Hi John,

How do you confront someone who has a history of talking their way out of situations?

Whether you call it gaslighting, blaming, skirting, shirking, or shifting, our Crucial Conversations® courses offer several ways for addressing manipulation. Today’s article explores a couple.
How to Confront Someone Who Has a History of Evading Responsibility
by Brittney Maxfield

How can you confront a manipulative roommate who has a way of talking their way out of situations and a history of gaslighting? I caught them stealing food from other roommates.

Signed,
Roommate

Two of our most popular Crucial Skills articles are "How to Confront a Liar" and "How to Approach a Suspected Thief." You might want to read both for additional ideas on approaching your roommate. You’re not alone in living and associating with people who don’t always act responsibly. It’s a challenging world out there.

It sounds like your concern centers on the fact that you’ve caught your roommate stealing, but their history of manipulation and gaslighting gives you little confidence in confronting them with good results. I’ll share three skills I think will help.
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