PRACTICAL WISDOM FOR LEADING CONGREGATIONS
"I needed community to be able to heal my spiritual wounds"
 
Carol Howard Merritt grew up in a conservative Christian family. It was also an abusive family, and she has struggled much of her life to heal from the wounds sustained in childhood.
Yet the writer, teacher and speaker has remained committed to the church -- and has even become ordained in the PCUSA.

"Christianity was and is part of the problem, the cause of much suffering, anxiety, and pain in life; but Christianity has also been my cure, my solace, my center," she writes in her new book, Healing Spiritual Wounds: Reconnecting with a Loving God After Experiencing a Hurtful Church.

In the book, Howard Merritt shares her personal experience and offers help to others who love the church but have been wounded by it.

She studied at Austin Presbyterian Seminary and is the author of "Tribal Church: Ministering to the Missing Generation" and "Reframing Hope: Vital Ministry in a New Generation." She co-hosts the podcast God Complex Radio in addition to blogging at The Christian Century. She also has contributed to Faith & Leadership.

Howard Merritt spoke recently to our colleagues at Faith & Leadership about the book and the lessons it holds for church leaders. 


IDEAS THAT IMPACT: SPIRITUAL CARE
Pastoral care as healing presence 
As clergy open ourselves prayerfully to God's inspiring and comforting companionship, our wounds become the media of God's healing touch to other vulnerable people, write two pastors and Alban authors. 
 
Most of our spiritual life is not spent in ecstasy
Church communities do a better job of talking about the beginning of people's spiritual lives than about moments of spiritual desolation, says a Duke Divinity professor.
 
We need to teach our people to pray and to weep
These two practices help us connect to the Holy One, the source of love, compassion and justice, writes a retired Baptist pastor.
 
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FROM THE ALBAN LIBRARY
by Lynne Baab 
 
Listening skills, and the perspective gained through careful listening, are more important in congregations than ever. Many factors make attentive listening a significant contributor to healthy congregations. As we enter into a post-Christendom culture, the people coming into congregations, as well as the people in the wider community, are less likely to be operating from a shared set of assumptions. With world-wide migration reshaping our communities and congregations, diverse perspectives coming from varied cultural backgrounds are also more common. The breakdown of many support structures in society has created profound pastoral care needs, making listening increasingly significant for both ministers and lay leaders. Polarization over so many issues and the increasing emphasis on story-telling in the journey of faith are two additional reasons why listening matters today. Careful and loving listening nurtures care, connection and depth, which contribute to congregational life and health. 

Listening to God is another aspect of listening which is gaining increased attention today. Many congregational leaders have become weary of church as a business and are looking for authentic experiences of God's guidance. Congregations are increasingly engaging in communal discernment. Many listening skills used in human interactions are also building blocks for listening to God. 
 
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