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Do you truly believe your soul mate is out there?

Believing that your soul mate is out there is critical to the preparation of manifesting him or her into your life. The basic law of attraction states that you will attract to you those things that match your state of belief. I believe that the Universe is always mirroring back to us our beliefs about ourselves and the world. If we believe the world is a loving and friendly place, then most of the time that will be our experience. If we believe the world is a chaotic, stressful and fearful place, then that becomes our reality. So, believing and knowing that your soul mate is out there is part of the formula for manifestation.

- If you do not yet believe with 100% certainty that your soul mate is out there, let's begin to look for things that will make a believer out of you. Do you believe you are loveable? If you are reading this then I am certain you are loveable. Why? Because, loveable people want more love in their lives. But, if you believe you are not loveable, I'm going to ask you to challenge that belief. Take a moment to identify at least three (or more) lovable traits that you possess, such as being generous, compassionate, friendly, kind, considerate, thoughtful, interesting, funny, etc. Write these down and then memorize them. You will be using them shortly for your treasure map.

I know many very attractive, successful single people who have some very negative, limiting beliefs when it comes to finding their soul mate. The list usually goes something like this:

-I'm too old.
-I'm too fat.
-I'm too damaged.
-I have too much baggage.
-I am too successful.
-I am not successful enough.
-All the good ones are taken.
-Nobody I want, wants me.

These are just knee-jerk excuses to keep you stuck. There is plenty of evidence that love is available to everyone regardless of age, weight or income or any other feeble excuse.

What if I told you that it's not your job to know HOW your soul mate is going to appear? It's only your job to be ready, willing and open to love. You don't really know where air or water comes from but you totally believe that they are there for you. As a human being you know that air and water are your divine right. You know that no matter what mistakes you have made in the past, you are still going to wake up every day and have access to air and water. The same is true for love. It's there for you. It's always been there for you. You just need to remember the love that you are and once you do, the Universe will deliver to you the perfect soul mate.
There is nothing for you to do, there is only a way for you to BE.

- Be the loving person that you are.
- Live in the knowingness that you are in a loving, committed relationship.
- Live that truth every day as you savor the waiting for your beloved to arrive.
- Listen to your intuition to take action when opportunities present themselves.



THE SOULMATE IQ TEST

(answer YES, NO, or NOT SURE for each question)

- Do you believe your soul mate is out there?
- Are you ready to meet your soul mate today? Right now?
- If your soul mate had the ability to observe your life right now, would you be proud of what they would see?
- Are you psychologically and physically in your best condition to meet your soul mate?
- Is your home ready to receive your soul mate?
- Have you made a list of the top ten qualities you want in your soul mate?
- Do you regularly exhibit the qualities you believe your soul mate would be most attracted to?
- Are there past lovers who still have their energetic hooks in you?
- Are you at peace with the possibility that you may never meet your soul mate (do you truly believe you'll have a great life even if you never meet them)?

RESULTS:

If you answered "no" to even one of these questions, you may be unconsciously blocking your soul mate from coming into your life.
Have you ever wondered what it takes to find the love of your life? Is it your dream to find a life-partner who will love, cherish and adore you?

As someone who didn't meet and marry my soul mate until I was 44, I learned a lot along the way about what does and doesn't work in the world of love and romance.

Finding true love is possible for any one at any age if you're willing to prepare yourself, on all levels, to become a magnet for love. This wonderful Universe of ours is set up to deliver the people and things we draw to us that are consistent with our personal belief system. If you don't believe you will ever find the ONE, then guess what, you get to be right. . . you probably won't.

If, however, you learn to believe that the ONE is not only out there but is ALSO LOOKING FOR YOU, then true love can be yours. My grandmother always told me there's a lid for every pot. In other words, there is a match -- a perfect partner -- for every person. Even so, I have to admit that there were many, many times in my thirties when I questioned this because I still hadn't found the lid to my pot.

Then one day something happened that really solidified in me the belief for me that my soul mate was out there . . . somewhere. I was watching Oprah and she had Barbra Streisand on the show. Barbra had recently fallen in love with James Brolin and I remember thinking, "Here is this super-wealthy, ultra famous diva . . . how many men could be a match for her?" And then I realized, if God could find somebody for her then I'll be a piece of cake! I knew in that moment, with absolute certainty, that if the Universe had the perfect man for Barbra Streisand then my soul mate was definitely out there. I also knew that I needed to prepare myself on every level to magnetize him into my life.

At that point in my life I was working from home, and the only men I ever met were delivery guys . . . the mailman, the Fedex guy, the UPS man, the Sparkletts water guy . . . and most of them were already married! I began using everything I had ever learned about manifestation, psychology, spirituality, and the law of attraction and applied it to my love life. My intentions became crystal clear while I simultaneously cleared out the clutter in my house AND in my heart. I learned and invented techniques, rituals, visualizations and prayers that helped me prepare my body, mind, spirit and home for an amazing relationship. And they worked.
Within six months of getting serious about manifesting my soul mate, I met my husband, Brian, who has exceeded all of my desires and expectations. He was and is everything I ever wished for.

Does this really work?

Well, it worked for me and it recently worked formy mother-in-law, Peggy. After a 55 year marriage and 5 years as a widow, Peggy, now 80, set the intention of finding a companion. Within a few months Peggy met John, who had also enjoyed a 50 year plus marriage before his wife died. Today Peggy and John are like teenagers in love, enjoying the joy of re-discovering BIG LOVE in their golden years.

Whether you are or 88, it's never too late.

Daily Prayer for preparing to meet your soul mate:

God/Goddess and All That Is, in this moment I am grateful for the healing of my heart of EVERYTHING that would stop me from having my soul mate appear. In this moment I remember that my perfect, right partner is magnetizing to me and my only job is to rest in perfect awareness that their heart is already joined with mine as I "savor the waiting."

And so it is.

"I am bewildered by the magnificence of your beauty, and wish to see you with a hundred eyes. I am in the house of mercy and my heart is a place of prayer." - Rumi

DAILY GROUNDING VISUALIZATION

Begin by taking 3 deep, cleansing breathes, drawing the energy of the breath all the way down to the lowest part of your body. Imagine ribbons extending out from your feet and rooting you firmly in the earth. Take your mind's attention into your heart space and follow that attention with another deep cleansing breath into your heart. Ask your heart what color or combination of colors needs to grow out of the flower of your heart to exemplify the energy of your highest potential, your most open heart and your most balanced state of being. Whatever colors come to you, quickly just trust that. Allow them to begin to unfold out of the flower of your heart and circulate within the chest area of your body. Breathing gently but deeply, feel the warmth or coolness, smoothness and purity or your own spirits' nature. Allow this soft coolness to spread gently throughout your body, allow it to rise up through your neck and into your head, letting it branch off at your neck and cascade d! own your arms as it flows out the palms of your hands. Gently circulate the energy and allow it to spiral down your torso, down your legs and out the soles of your feet, all the while gently breathing into your body, knowing that this energy is the energy of your being and represents your receptivity to meeting your soul mate. Continue to allow this energy to move and swirl in its own way through your body. You may sit here as long as you wish. When you are ready to move on with your day, take a few deep cleansing breaths in.

Remember to drop your energy all the way down to your pelvic area. When you are ready, gently lower your chin to your chest without over-stretching your neck and softly open your eyes, coming back into your body's energy and move on with your day, knowing that you are continuing to radiate your most powerful and magnetic essence throughout the day.

FEELINGIZATIONS

As part of my own process of preparing to meet and manifest a soul mate I created a series of processes for myself that I call "Feelingizations."

- While some people might call them "visualizations" I have found that "feelingization" is the more accurate term. Just being able to visualize isn't enough you have to feel in every cell of your being the outcome you want to create.

For instance: Let's say you want to manifest a green Jaguar convertible. You could visualize yourself sitting behind the wheel of this car and you could spend days, weeks or months seeing yourself sitting in this green convertible Jaguar but, if you don't really believe you deserve this car, just visualizing it won't make it happen. You need to be able to feel how you will feel driving this car knowing in every cell of your body that IT IS ALREADY YOURS and that you completely deserve it. This is why I call these processes "feelingizations."

At the beginning of my career, I didn't always know exactly what I wanted, but I was always sure of how I would feel when I got my heart's desire. For instance, when I moved to Los Angeles in 1984, I needed to manifest a job. Being young and totally new to the entertainment capital of the world, I wasn't at all clear on what kind of job to look for but I was 100% clear that I wanted a job that would leaving me feeling satisfied, creative and well-paid. So, twice a day I would lie down, close my eyes and imagine in every part of my body what it would feel like when I had a job that was fun, creative, made good use of my existing skills and would challenge me to learn new things.

Within ten days I found the perfect job. I also used this technique for manifesting a place to live and ended up with not only a great apartment but a roommate who insisted on doing all the cleaning and cooking!

You can use feelingizations in every area of your life, including manifesting a soul mate. Prior to meeting Brian, I had a ritual feelingization: Each day at sunset I would light several candles, put on my favorite CD of Gregorian chants and sit in my big, cozy chair. With my eyes closed I would drop into the feeling of remembering the joy of having my soul mate in my life, I would experience these wonderful feelings in every part of my body KNOWING that he was on the way (there were days when the thought that he was VERY LATE did cross my mind but I would just let those thoughts go and get back to being in a state of grace that his arrival was assured).

Feelingizations have the added benefit of being very relaxing which in turn is good for your health!

To gain maximum benefit from the feelingizations I would suggest you:

- Do these lying down or sitting in a comfortable chair, in a room where you won't be distracted by people or electronics.
- Draw the shades, light a candle, and if there is a lot of outside noise, put earplugs in.
- Choose to do them once a day or once a week, it's completely up to you.

"A soul mate is someone to whom we feel profoundly connected, as though the communication and communing that take place between us were not the product of intentional efforts, but rather a divine grace. This kind of relationship is so important to the soul that many have said there is nothing more precious in life." Thomas Moore

This Feelingization is for Releasing Old Lovers and Beliefs.

Part 1 of Feelingization

This is a two-part visualization for the first part stand up next to a comfortable chair (which you will sit in soon). Stand with your feet about hip width apart and close your eyes. Clench your fists, tighten your shoulders and breathe very shallow. In this position, I want you to take a moment to remember your worst romantic encounters . . . the people who really weren't kind and loving... the ones you'd like to forget . . . The ones who hurt you the most. Now imagine they are all standing in front of you... allow yourself to feel the pain they caused you in the past . . . Take a moment to ask yourself what belief you had about yourself to tolerate their kind of behavior. Did you believe that you didn't deserve any better? That you had no right to ask for more? That you weren't lovable?

Take a deep breath and ask yourself, "In this moment am I willing to let go of those old beliefs?" Notice what your answer is, and if you're ready to let them go imagine gathering all the old, painful feelings and beliefs and limitations and mentally project them onto all of your old lovers, standing before you. Just imagine dumping all those old painful feelings back on to those ex lovers. Take a moment to notice how that feels.

Now I want you to imagine that you have an aerosal can, like a paint can or a furniture polish can in your hand. See yourself pointing it at those ex lovers and spraying the can. And as you do imagine that all those people and all those painful memories become all glommed together immersed inside a big latex bubble. They are now separate from you, removed from you. Take a deep breath and enjoy the freedom of that.

Now imagine that you are holding in your left hand a large, sharp needle. Perhaps a smile comes across your face just imagining what I'm about to ask you to do. That's right, when you are ready, take the needle, puncture the latex bubble and watch it explode and disappear into thin air. These people are now gone from your consciousness . . .and with them the painful feelings and experiences of the past.

Part 2 of Feelingization

NOW, sit down and get comfortable in the chair.

Close your eyes and breathe normally. Feel what it feels like to no longer be carrying the burden of your past with you. Feel the freedom, the new possibility, the relief.

And then notice what arises when I ask you these questions: What would you have to believe about yourself in order to magnetize your soul mate into your life?

Would you have to believe and know that you are lovable?

That you are deserving? That you are fabulous?

Believe and know deep in your heart that the "one" is out there for you. And if you don't quite believe it today can you, in this moment, believe that the ONE is ON THE WAY and that your knowingness is growing daily? . . .Take this time to think about all the things you have to offer, and in case you are forgetting what that is, I'd like to remind you it's the love you give & share, the kindness and warmth you exude, not to mention all your other talents.

You were born to be Loved, cherished, and adored. . .
You were born to be Loved, cherished, and adored. . .
You were born to be Loved, cherished, and adored. . .


PROJECT: Treasure Map

A treasure map is a visual reminder of the life that you are creating. I have found creating a treasure map a powerful way to get clarity on what my heart is calling for and to use it as a tool for manifestation.

You can make your treasure map 100% focused on attracting your soul mate, or you can separate it into four life areas:

- Love & relationship
- Health & fitness
- Career & money
- Spiritual & emotional life

- Here's how to create a treasure map:

You will need:

- 1 good-sized piece of poster board or foam board.
- A stack of magazines that reflect your unique interests and taste
- Glue stick, scissors
- Several hours to focus on this project

Go through the magazines and cut out all of the photos and words that appeal to you. You will want at least one photo or image of a loving couple it could be something as simple two people walking on the beach handin- hand. When selecting these images you are looking to evoke a feeling as opposed to manifesting the model in the photo so look for images that are expressing the "feeling" more than a particular face. Images that represent love, romance, commitment, and joy are all good. If finding and marrying your soul mate is what you desire, feel free to add engagement rings, wedding rings, wedding cake, etc. Be sure to include a photo or yourself looking really happy and surround that image with the words that match the traits you listed for yourself earlier along with some or all of these words:

I am loved, worshipped, cherished, and adored by my perfect partner.

This treasure map is just for you. I like to set my treasure map up as an altar with candles, fresh flowers and spiritual icons nearby to bless it. I would suggest that you keep it somewhere where you can look at it daily but slide it under the bed or in a closet when company shows up. You don't need anyone else's opinion or energy projected onto your dreams and commitments.

In my Treasure Map in the bottom left corner is a photo of a bedroom with an ocean view. When I made this map I had just found out that we would be moving within nine months. At the time I had no idea where we would be moving to but I had seen this picture in a magazine and found it very appealing. When it was time to go househunting, the very first home we saw had a bedroom with this same view, same carpet, same wood around the windows. It was exactly what I had intended. This is the power of Treasure Mapping.

Prayer God/Goddess and All That IS, in this moment I am grateful for the healing of my heart of EVERYTHING that would stop me from having my soul mate appear. In this moment I remember that my perfect, right partner is magnetizing to me and my only job is to rest in perfect awareness that their heart is already joined with mine as I "savor the waiting."