Pushing Buttons | by Madisyn Taylor We've all had our buttons pushed to the point where we feel we can't take it any more, and chances are, we've all pushed somebody else's buttons, with or without knowing it. The button pusher may not be conscious of what they're doing, but in the end the buttons belong to us, and we are the ones who must deal with what comes up. The more we take responsibility for our own feelings and reactions, the less tender these buttons will be. We've all had the experience of having someone snap at us, seemingly out of nowhere. This happens when we unconsciously push a button in someone else we didn't even know was there. This can happen with a complete stranger and sometimes with a person we've known and been close to for years. We ourselves may have a relationship with someone whose buttons we secretly like to push. Buttons are just soft spots that have been touched one too many times, and they symbolize some pain that needs to be acknowledged and healed. This may be a wound from childhood, or some recent trauma, that we haven't adequately tended. Whatever the case, when our buttons get pushed, the person who most needs our attention and caring is us, and blaming the button pusher only distracts us from finding a true resolution to our suffering. At the same time, if someone continually opens our wounds so that they never have time to heal, we are well within our rights to set a boundary with that person. Compulsive button pushers, who seem to find pleasure or satisfaction in hurting us, are not welcome in our personal space. In the end, knowing where our buttons are enables us to do the work necessary to heal. Freedom comes when we deal with the pain behind the button, thus disconnecting our automatic reaction to being pushed. | DailyOM Course Spotlight by Dr. Jody Janati Most people have come to accept that conflict is inevitable. What many do not realize is that most of us use unconscious strategies called control dramas to gain power or energy from another person, and to essentially, "get their way with others." A control drama is played by anyone who is feeling low on power or energy, to manipulate and steal the energy of another. We get our way with others by making them pay attention to us and then elicit a certain reaction from them to make ourselves feel fulfilled. The positive feelings we gain are won at the expense of the other person and this often causes imbalance and drama in our interpersonal relationships. In this course you'll learn about common control dramas and how to negate them through step by step applied approaches that really work. Dr. Jody Janati will help you identify and protect yourself from common control dramas that arise when individuals become defensive. Top 10 DailyOM Courses 1. The Art of Intuitive Tarot 2. Lose Emotional and Physical Weight with Tapping 3. 21 Day Booty Core 4. HIIT Yoga Fusion 5. 21 Days to Phenomenal Abdominals 6. Fit and Fierce Over 40 7. Be Free from Unhealthy Relationships 8. A Year to Get Rich with Purpose 9. The 4-Minute Peaceful Warrior Workout 10. 21 Days of Prayer to Change Your Life
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