Putting People on a Pedestal | by Madisyn Taylor When we fall in love with someone or make a new friend, we sometimes see that person in a glowing light. Their good qualities dominate the foreground of our perception and their negative qualities. They just don't seem to have any. This temporary state of grace is commonly known as putting someone on a pedestal. Often times we put spiritual leaders and our gurus on pedestals. We have all done this to someone at one time or another, and as long as we remember that no one is actually "perfect," the pedestal phase of a relationship can be enjoyed for what it is: a phase. It's when we actually believe our own projection that troubles arise. Everyone has problems, flaws, and blind spots, just as we do. When we entertain the illusion that someone is perfect, we don't allow them room to be human, so when they make an error in judgment or act in contradiction to our idea of perfection, we become disillusioned. We may get angry or distance ourselves in response. In the end, they are not to blame for the fact that we idealized them. Granted, they may have enjoyed seeing themselves as perfect through our eyes, but we are the ones who chose to believe an illusion. If you go through this process enough times, you learn that no one is perfect. We are all a combination of divine and human qualities and we all struggle. When we treat the people we love with this awareness, we actually allow for a much greater intimacy than when we held them aloft on an airy throne. The moment you see through your idealized projection is the moment you begin to see your loved one as he or she truly is. We cannot truly connect with a person when we idealize them. In life, there are no pedestals; we are all walking on the same ground together. When we realize this, we can own our own divinity and our humanity. This is the key to balance and wholeness within ourselves and our relationships. | DailyOM Course Spotlight by Laura Katleman-Prue I want to let you in on a little secret: you don't need willpower to stay at your ideal weight for the rest of your life! You just need to change your diet (rather than diet) and learn to keep the mature part of you in charge of your eating. Now it's time to lose the excess weight and get the body you've always wanted--but not just or a month or two--for life!! Imagine not being able to gain weight. "Impossible!" you say? Not so. Many of my students can't gain weight again because they eat with health in mind and no longer think about food. Thinking leads to desire which leads to action. If you stop thinking about food, you can't desire it, and you can't gain weight. Using the simple five-minute daily exercises in this course, you will learn an easy way of eating that will serve you well for the rest of your life. Part II is about changing your diet forever, rather than going on a diet, which is temporary. When you permanently change your diet, you never again regain your lost weight. Top 10 DailyOM Courses 1. 21 Day Booty Core 2. 21 Days to Phenomenal Abdominals 3. Be Free from Unhealthy Relationships 4. A Year to Clear What is Holding You Back! 5. Way of Story Writing Course 6. Reinventing The Body, Resurrecting the Soul 7. 21 Day Total Goddess Workout 8. The Best Year of Your Life 9. 21 Day Yoga Shred 10. Protect Yourself from Control Dramas
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