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| | | | | Hi John,
Do you know someone who can "talk the back legs off a mule"? Can’t get a word in edgewise? Do your attempts to dialogue get bulldozed, steamrolled, and paved over? What do you do?
Today’s Q&A offers at least one idea.
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| | | | | Crucial Conversations for Mastering Dialogue | |
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| | Talking with Someone Who Always Dominates the Conversation | | by Joseph Grenny |
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| | What is the best way to respond to someone who has the habit of dominating conversations? My colleague will not let me finish my sentences, interrupts with an opinion or comment, talks at great length, and often repeats what she already said. I feel hostage to her while she hogs the airwaves. What can I do?
Signed,
Talked Over
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| | | | There’s no way around this other than through it. Either you need to let go of your need for conversational equity (or even airtime!), or you’ll need to have a conversation about your conversations.
The biggest key to a productive outcome in situations like this is to talk sooner rather than later. If you wait until you’ve built resentments about their pattern, your judgments will leak into the conversation and provoke defensiveness. If you’re already past the point of feeling resentful, my first suggestion is that you change your story about what’s been happening. Rather than feeling a “victim of their insensitivity” I suggest you swallow hard and accept that the reason for the pattern is not just their insensitivity, but your passivity. The first time some hogs all the airtime, it's their fault. But the tenth time it happens, you’re complicit.
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