The Changing Nest | by Madisyn Taylor Once individuals become parents, they are parents forevermore. Their identities change perceptively the moment Mother Nature inaugurates them mom or dad. Yet the role they undertake when they welcome children into their lives is not a fixed one. As children move from one phase of their lives to the next, parental roles change. When these transitions involve a child gaining independence, many parents experience an empty nest feeling. Instead of feeling proud that their children have achieved so much--whether the flight from the nest refers to the first day of kindergarten or the start of college--parents feel they are losing a part of themselves. However, when approached thoughtfully, this new stage of parental life can be an exciting time in which mothers and fathers rediscover themselves and relate to their children in a new way. As children earn greater levels of independence, their parents often gain unanticipated freedom. Used to being depended upon by and subject to the demands of their children, parents sometimes forget that they are not only mom or dad but also individuals. As the nest empties, parents can alleviate the anxiety and sadness they feel by rediscovering themselves and honoring the immense strides their children have made in life. The simplest way to honor a child undergoing a transition is to allow that child to make decisions and mistakes appropriate to their level of maturity. Freed from the role of disciplinarian, parents of college-age children can befriend their offspring and undertake an advisory position. Those with younger children beginning school or teenagers taking a first job can plan a special day in which they express their pride and explain that they will always be there to offer love and support. An empty nest can touch other members of the family unit as well. Young people may feel isolated or abandoned when their siblings leave the nest. As this is normal, extra attention can help them feel more secure in their newly less populated home. Spouses with more leisure time on their hands may need to relearn how to be best friends and lovers. Other family members will likely grieve less when they understand the significance of the child's new phase of life. The more parents both celebrate and honor their children's life transitions, the less apprehension the children will feel. Parents who embrace their changing nest while still cherishing their offspring can look forward to developing deeper, more mature relationships with them in the future. | DailyOM Course Spotlight by Mother Mary as channeled by Danielle Gibbons Imagine the happiness you'd experience if you could feel more love for the beautiful person you are right now. As spiritual seekers we understand the value of loving ourselves, but the exact details of how to do this can be a mystery. Why do we still struggle with self-punishing habits after trying so hard to change? In this powerful course, you'll find everything you need to create self-love, as you receive help and guidance from Mother Mary as channeled by Danielle Gibbons. You'll transform harsh beliefs about yourself into kind ones, and learn how to uncover your courage from within. If you're willing to open yourself to receive these teachings, it'll begin to transform your life. Learn to fall in love with yourself again-starting today. Top 10 DailyOM Courses 1. Reinvent Your Self-Image 2. Fit and Fierce Over 40 3. Chair Yoga for Healing, Strength and Mobility 4. 21 Day Booty Core 5. Clear Your Home, Clear Your Life 6. 21 Day Tabata Yoga Body Challenge 7. How to Communicate Like a Buddhist 8. Anti-Aging Face Yoga 9. 14 Day Spinal Reset 10. Release Yourself from Family Karma
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