Happy Valentine's Day to everyone who loves love. And may it pass quickly for those who are tapped out on over-the-top displays of romance.
Though it might not feel like it today, more people than ever in recent history are single: Nearly 40% of adults in the U.S. are unpartnered, up from 29% in 1990. And about half of those singletons aren’t interested in dating or a relationship. For years, researchers knew very little about who chooses to be single and why, and how the solo life affects health and happiness. But that's beginning to change.
I reached out to a few leading singlehood researchers to find out what they've learned. Among their most intriguing insights:
People prefer being single for a variety of reasons. Many report that the benefits include having more time for themselves, being able to focus on their goals, and not having anyone else dictate their actions.
Being alone doesn't mean being lonely. Research suggests that people who are coupled up often turn inwards to their partners and families—while singles have stronger social ties. “They aren’t just staying home, the way people who live with others often do,” social psychologist Bella DePaulo told me. “They walk out the door and meet other people.”
There's still a stigma. Even as more people choose to go solo, single-shaming persists. If you're feeling it today, take DePaulo's advice: to "live your single life fully, joyfully, and unapologetically."
A growing body of scientific research is proving that love comes with some solid health benefits, including stress reduction and longevity. (Originally published in 2018.)
