| “It wasn’t until I lived through the trauma of miscarriage that I experienced my need for God’s redemptive love in a way I never had before,” writes therapist Aundi Kolber in “Miscarriage Changed Me.” She continues, “In the trenches of sorrow, I learned how fervently God cares for me, grieves with me, and covers me from life’s maelstrom of brokenness.” Miscarriage is a common experience; about 10 percent of known pregnancies end in miscarriage. This commonness, however, doesn’t lessen the traumatic impact of miscarriage upon women and couples. Not only must women endure the emotional loss, but often they have to endure invasive medical procedures as part of the miscarriage and healing process. These physical realities can compound the sense of trauma. Miscarriage is a deep loss—it isn’t something a person can just pray their way out of until they “feel better.” In this week’s featured article, Kolber deals frankly with the lasting impact of miscarriage, validating the grief many experience even as she points the way toward God’s loving presence in such difficult experiences. “As my physical and emotional scars were healing, I discovered a deep inner belief living in me: Grounded in my identity as God’s beloved through my faith in Jesus, I am loved, valuable, and strong,” Kolber writes. But she also says, “This abiding belief did not take away the layers of pain and grief I was (and still am) processing, but it has caused me to see my grief differently.” If you have journeyed through miscarriage or you know someone who is dealing with this sort of pain and its aftermath, dive into Kolber’s piece. Her honest recognition of this deep pain and how it changes us is, in itself, a validation that can contribute to healing. |
