Trying to Please Others | by Madisyn Taylor Most of us come to a point in our lives when we question why we are doing what we are doing, and many of us come to realize that we may be living our lives in an effort to make our parents happy. This realization can dawn when we are in our 20s, our 40s, or even later, depending upon how tight a hold our family of origin has on our psyche. We may feel shocked or depressed by this information, but we can trust that it is coming to us at this time because we are ready to find out what it would mean to live our lives for ourselves, following the call of our own soul, and refusing any longer to be beholden to someone else's expectations. One of the most common reasons we are so tied into making our parents, or others, happy, is that we were not properly mirrored when we were children. We were not honored as individuals in our own right, with a will and purpose of our own, to be determined by our own unfolding. As a result, we learned to look outside of ourselves for approval, support, and direction rather than look within. The good news is that the part of us that was not adequately nurtured is still there, inside us, like a seed that has not yet received the sunlight and moisture it needs to open and to allow its inner contents to unfurl. It is never too late to provide ourselves with what we need to awaken this inner being. There are many ways to create a safe container for ourselves so that we can turn within and shine the light of awareness there. We may join a support group, go to therapy, or start a practice of journaling every day for half an hour. This experience of becoming is well worth the difficult work that may be required of us to get there. In whatever process we choose, we may feel worse before we feel better, but we will ultimately find out how to live our lives for ourselves and how to make ourselves happy. | DailyOM Course Spotlight by Cynthia Kane The most well known Buddhist teachers on the planet all have something in common: they are excellent communicators. This is not by accident, as the Buddha taught what are called the four elements of right speech over 2,600 years ago. If you have ever felt misheard, have trouble stating how you feel, or long to have more meaningful and genuine conversations, this course can help. The simple steps outlined in this course will have a huge effect on how you communicate with others and yourself. Communication is essential to being human, and when you become better at it, your personal truth becomes clearer, your relationships improve, and the result is that you experience more peace and harmony in your life. Top 10 DailyOM Courses 1. Tone and Tighten Your Tummy 2. Write. Heal. Transform: A Magical Memoir Writing Course 3. Shedding Your Menopausal Middle in 10 Days 4. Fit and Fierce Over 40 5. Go Sleeveless in 14 Days 6. Dancer's Legs in 14 Days 7. Pelvis Reset for Lower Back Pain 8. No-Squat Booty Workout 9. Chair Yoga for Healing, Strength and Mobility 10. How to Heal the Mother Wound
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