Trying to Please Others | by Madisyn Taylor Most of us come to a point in our lives when we question why we are doing what we are doing, and many of us come to realize that we may be living our lives in an effort to make our parents happy. This realization can dawn when we are in our 20s, our 40s, or even later, depending upon how tight a hold our family of origin has on our psyche. We may feel shocked or depressed by this information, but we can trust that it is coming to us at this time because we are ready to find out what it would mean to live our lives for ourselves, following the call of our own soul, and refusing any longer to be beholden to someone else's expectations. One of the most common reasons we are so tied into making our parents, or others, happy, is that we were not properly mirrored when we were children. We were not honored as individuals in our own right, with a will and purpose of our own, to be determined by our own unfolding. As a result, we learned to look outside of ourselves for approval, support, and direction rather than look within. The good news is that the part of us that was not adequately nurtured is still there, inside us, like a seed that has not yet received the sunlight and moisture it needs to open and to allow its inner contents to unfurl. It is never too late to provide ourselves with what we need to awaken this inner being. There are many ways to create a safe container for ourselves so that we can turn within and shine the light of awareness there. We may join a support group, go to therapy, or start a practice of journaling every day for half an hour. This experience of becoming is well worth the difficult work that may be required of us to get there. In whatever process we choose, we may feel worse before we feel better, but we will ultimately find out how to live our lives for ourselves and how to make ourselves happy. | DailyOM Course Spotlight by Mary Joye, LMHC Tragedy changes our brain and our everyday functioning. Life altering events create a disconnect with everyone and everything. States of hyper-vigilance and numbness can cycle. Triggers can set off reactivity. Your spiritual life can suffer. Traumas highjack our sense of well-being and true purpose. Trauma can make you feel detached, irritable, anxious and highly reactive in a myriad of ways. It re-wires the brain in an attempt to protect you but it can actually harm you more. But trauma doesn't have to define you. It can refine you. With reframing and proper processing, you can learn to reconnect with yourself and others. You can change the course of your life by focusing on the things that aid your healing. In doing so, the thoughts and reactivity that harm you will extinguish over time. You can find your value and purpose and move toward it. This course was designed to facilitate your personal recovery at your pace. Top 10 DailyOM Courses 1. HIIT Yoga Fusion 2. Contact Your Angels for Empowerment 3. Break the Grip of Past Lovers 4. 14 Day Spinal Reset 5. A Year to Clear What is Holding You Back! 6. 21 Day Booty Core 7. Find True Love in 27 Days 8. Fit and Fierce Over 40 9. Reinventing The Body, Resurrecting the Soul 10. Heal Yourself with Writing
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