It's the "things" you love most, John, the "things" that are dearest to you, that you too often allow to define you.

Which explains the sometimes insufferable pain caused by their loss.

A wholly avoidable pain.

Ahhh... so hey, now you know.

You deserve to be happy, always -

   The Universe

John, watch it for free this weekend...

True, John, so true... easier said than done. But still every bit worth saying and doing.