When a Bad Apple Spoils the Bunch | by Madisyn Taylor Because life requires that we interact with different personalities, it is not uncommon for us to encounter a situation where there is one person whose behavior may negatively impact the experiences of others. Someone who is loud and crass can interrupt the serenity of those who come together to practice peace. A disruptive worker can cause rules to be imposed that affect their colleagues' professional lives. A team member who is pessimistic or highly critical may destroy the morale of their fellow members. And one "bad apple" in your personal life can be a potent distraction that makes it difficult to focus on the blessings you've been given and the people who love you. There may always be people in your life who take it upon themselves to create disruption, foster chaos, stamp out hope, and act as if they are above reproach  even when, in doing so, they put a blight on their own experiences. But you don't need to allow their negativity and callousness to sour your good mood. Often, our first impulse upon coming head-to-head with a bad apple is to express our anger and frustration in no uncertain terms. However, bad apples only have the power to turn our lives sour if we let them. If you can exercise patience and choose not to respond to their words or actions, you will significantly limit the effect they are able to have on you and your environment. You can also attempt to encourage a bad apple to change their behavior by letting your good behavior stand as an example. If your bad apple is simply hoping to attract notice, they may come to realize that receiving positive attention is much more satisfying than making a negative impression. While you may be tempted to simply disassociate yourself entirely from a bad apple, consider why they might be inclined to cause disturbances. Understanding their motivation can help you see that bad apples are not necessarily bad people. Though bad apples are a fact of life, minimizing the impact you allow them to have upon you is empowering because you are not letting anyone else affect the quality of your experiences. You may discover that buried at the very heart of a bad apple is a seed of goodness. | DailyOM Course Spotlight by Stephanie Bennett Vogt With all our best intentions and rich resources, why is it so hard to slow down, simplify, and care for ourselves? Why do most clearing efforts fall short or peter out? Why are we so afraid to let go? Our drive to attain and succeed comes at a great cost to the soul. We are malnourished, if not starved, when it comes to compassionate self-acceptance, awareness, and care. We yearn for simplicity but struggle to find it. We ache for balance but can't sustain it. There is no time to juggle it all, let alone clear the things and thoughts that have caused us to feel so overwhelmed in the first place. Most traditional approaches do not make room for us to feel the feelings that come up when we clear, and they make us feel bad when we fall short. These linear modalities do not account for our fight-or-flight response, nor recognize the energetic impact that our thoughts and emotions can have on our living spaces. After years of study, deep inquiry, and personal experience, here's what I know for sure: For clearing to last you need to put yourself first. You won't make a dent in reducing the stress and stuff until you've healed the patterns that created it. If you don't feel safe, you won't let go. Clearing is an inside job that begins and ends with you. Top 10 DailyOM Courses 1. Go Strapless in 10 Days 2. 21 Days of Prayer to Change Your Life 3. Chair Yoga for Healing, Strength and Mobility 4. 8 Week Whole Body Makeover! 5. A Year to Clear What is Holding You Back! 6. From Codependent to Independent 7. Chakra Dance to Change Your Life 8. Heal Yourself From Adrenal Fatigue 9. How and When to Leave a Relationship 10. How to Communicate Like a Buddhist
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