Hi John,

When you can’t stand your boss, the first place to look might not be at them—but in the mirror. Joseph Grenny explains in today’s Q&A.
When You Disrespect and Dislike Your Boss
by Joseph Grenny

I don’t respect my boss as a leader. I know he has his own struggles, but I just don’t like him as a leader. I am fully aware of and even ashamed of my bad behavior. I like my job and my position, but I can’t stand him. What do you recommend? I am the worst version of myself when I interact with him.

Signed,
Disgusted

First, I applaud both your honesty and your self-examination. It takes integrity to admit that your feelings have escalated to disgust, and that you’re ashamed of your own behavior.

Please allow me to indulge that integrity by being very direct. Trust me, everything I’m about to say to you I say to myself when I find myself in similar predicaments.

The bottom line: The fastest path to resolving disgust for another person is a searching look in the mirror. Let me explain.
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